Family Portraits Do’s and Don’ts

For a photographer, skills in family portraits are are essential and are usually the bread and butter for up and coming photographers. Looking at the history of photography, one of the first popular uses the camera was not for abstract art, or photographing the family pet, but for photographing people and their families. Because of the expense and difficulty of each photo taken, they became masters at getting things right the first time and being able to fit in as many people as possible into the frame. In order to hone in on the small things that make a difference in this classic and often overlooked form of photography, I have come up with my five DO’s and five DONT’s of Family Portraits. I’ve also included a few examples from portrait sessions we have done.
Family Portraits DO’S
1) Do squish your groups together
Most likely, even though they are family they won’t be getting close enough. Maybe it’s an American personal space thing, but it’s always been an issue for me and having everyone in tight truly makes a difference in the tone of the picture. When families are physically close, it emits a warmth and visually shows what families should be like…close. Even if you are photographing the Adam’s family, when you get everyone rubbing shoulders they look like a model family and the overall composition is more finished than a typical snapshot. As a starter, try having people stand at slight angles with shoulders overlapping. Also, consider the age of your family. If Grandma is present, make sure you have a chair for her. If grandma and grandpa are both there, you’ll will need two chairs.

2) Do coordinate clothing
Before you meet with your family you should guide them in a wardrobe choice. Ultimately it is up to them and their families style to choose what they wear but simply reminding them to possibly overlap in a color scheme, avoid extreme colors, prints and logos on their clothing can make a big difference. This will give you an easier time post production, and you will have both options in color and black and white. As I said, it’s their picture and their choice, but a casual recommendation from a professional is usually appreciated.
3) Do check the screen for blinking
Shooting and shooting is OK for one or two people, but in a larger group it can be hit and miss and you may miss that one photo where everyone has there eyes open. I used to think “Hey, its digital. I’ll use the rapid fire method and surely I’ll get one right.” After a few sessions of transplanting eyes from one photo to another in Photoshop, I’ve changed my methods. You can get away with a weak smile but if someone looks like they are sleeping or on drugs in there first family portrait in 10 years, the customer may not be too happy. With experience you learn to quickly scan across everyone’s eyes in an instant.
4) Try and be funny to get some genuine smiles
A few cheesy jokes work surprisingly well to break the tension. A typical photographer joke might be saying “Ok, I need everyone to get in focus.” Or asking everyone to strike their best glamor pose. Other ways to get a smile is to get them doing something they don’t normally do. Have them try jumping, running, human pyramids or whatever comes to mind. If you have a one-liner you’ve used SUCCESSFULLY, or a creative and fun pose, sound off in the comments for the rest of us.
5.) Do try and blur the background
Choose the largest aperture setting you can, while still keeping everyone sharp. An aperture of 2.8 might make the trees and shrubbery look silky smooth, but it might make Uncle Bob at the end of the line look fuzzy. This is especially a problem when everyone is standing on different focal planes. The solution is often to shoot a few clicks smaller than the lenses widest aperture, then use the preview screen and zoom button on your camera to make sure everyone is looking good. Then adjust and continue. If you’re really serious about this, I’ve even heard of photographers setting out cups length-wise on a picnic table to estimate the distances you start to loose focus. Seems extreme to me, just don’t forget about Uncle Bob.

Family Portraits DON’TS
1.) Don’t forget to check ALL your basic camera settings before clicking away
ISO (go as low as possible), Image Size (RAW, fine), Exposure Compensation, Metering etc. It would be sad to get to the end of a great session and realize you didn’t change the low quality settings from the last time you used your camera shooting Garbage Pal Kids you planned on selling on Ebay. Of course in-door and out-door settings will differ as will naturally lit an artificially lit.
2.) Don’t let your subjects tilt their heads into each other
This is fine for your everyday Joe at the family Bar-b-que, but not a paid photographer. Subjects tend to think they will fit into the picture better if they tilt and lower their heads. Funny thing is, I’ve even caught myself doing this when I was being photographed. Watch for it and avoid it. There is always the lovey-dovey pose where they intentionally lean heads in, but that’s not what I’m talking about.
3.) Don’t sound insecure
Don’t say things like “This isn’t working.” Rephrase it into a positive, “Great, lets try a few more positions.” The more you tell them the pictures are looking great the better looking the pictures will get. Think high fashion cliche’s like, “Love it,” “Your beautiful,” “What a great one.” If you act like you have never seen such great photos the energy will give you just what your looking for and they will show confidence in their smiles.

4/5.) These last two may seem to contradict each other so I want to put them together. 4.) Don’t let Mom run the show. 5.) Don’t be afraid to let Mom, Dad, and kids come up with ideas and posing.
First about Mom. We all remember the drill, no running, no jumping, no dirt, and pretty much no fun until after the pictures. If you do this you can get a treat on the way home. This is probably the best way to ruin family picture day for the rest of every 8 year old’s life. Besides the fact that it is almost impossible to control what 8 year old’s do, it makes for bad portrait sessions. If you are sensing a strong arm from Mother, make sure to get the squeaky clean formals done right off the bat. They are easy and traditional. After that let mom know that you’ve got it covered and now you want to have fun with the kids. Let them be kids, let them wrestle and play and capture them at their best. Once in awhile you will find families that are more relaxed. They may have seen fun family photos of their friends and want do do some in a similar fashion. Take their suggestions without letting them think you have none of your own and work them in. Often they will turn out great and they’ll feel like they had a little more to do with the pictures than just a pretty face.

63 Responses to “Family Portraits Do’s and Don’ts” - Add Yours
April 8th, 2009 at 1:01 am
A closed eyes tip I picked up years ago that I’ve used with a group of 170 is to have everyone shut their eyes. Then count down from three and have everyone open at the one count. Everyone should be open without the need to blink a second later when you make the exposure.
April 8th, 2009 at 1:19 am
I have used a cliched line while taking group pictures and that is ” Don’t worry, I am the photographer!”.
This line has multiple effects like genuine smiles, rarely captured expressions, etc. Try it and every time it works differently.
April 8th, 2009 at 1:49 am
Great tips, I specially loved the ‘contradictory’ last one – so true :)
About closed eye’s – Why not to use ‘rapid fire’ as you stated, and then in photoshop combine the best result over one frame? Just shoot 4-5 (10?) photos, as much as the buffer allows, and at home choose the best faces (sounds funny, but works)
April 8th, 2009 at 1:51 am
If I’m counting off a shot for the family (OK, ready in 3, 2, 1, …), I almost always actually take the shot on “2″ — it has the effect of helping avoid forced smiles, catches them off-guard if they’re trying to force it, and often makes poses a little more genuine looking. It’s a small thing, but I like it.
April 8th, 2009 at 2:06 am
Two clarifications to the “have-everyone-close-their-eyes-then-open-them-at-the-count-of-one” idea:
1. Don’t have them keep their eyes closed too long. Don’t even mention it until you’re ready to shoot. Some people are a bit too literal. You may have someone standing there for five minutes with their eyes closed while you’re setting up. (Don’t laugh, it happens!)
2. Ask them to open their eyes exaggeratedly wide. Not cartoonishly wide but some people (including me) are naturally squinty. This looks terrible in portraits. Asking people to open their eyes wider than is natural actually ends up looking more natural (and more flattering).
April 8th, 2009 at 2:49 am
OK this about professional family portrait which I don’t do. But I can share two ideas:
- Candid action takes have lots more life and personality than posed takes. It’s like classic street photography but inside the family. I did a niece’s Sweet 16 this way and was very interesting. The official photographer did a great job but my photos are more funny to look and chat around.
- One of my wife’s brothers do something very effective when we do the family reunion portrait. He screams very loud right before the shot, something like “SMIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIILE!!!”. That release all the tension in the group and everybody laugh and smile spontaneusly. Funny thing, he pose very serious.
Really my two cents.
April 8th, 2009 at 2:54 am
Sorry, I forgot to say that the person screaming is in the group behind everybody, so if you’re not part of the family you will need an insider to do it for you (the tall funny guy of the family).
April 8th, 2009 at 2:56 am
Nice and clear tutorials for thse who wish to improve their photographic skills
April 8th, 2009 at 3:13 am
“Don’t forget to check ALL your basic camera settings before clicking away”
i think i need to get that TATTOOED TO MY FOREHEAD.
April 8th, 2009 at 3:24 am
Our favorite line is the “Why’d you make that face? Did someone fart?
April 8th, 2009 at 5:38 am
Great post! I learned this at a conference, when I want to use 2.8 or lower f-stops, I try to line people up, by asking them to line up against an invisible glass wall. It helps get more of them in focus, depending on the pose. I also ask for a series of “silly, mad, funny, then happy” faces… usually loosens everyone up.
April 8th, 2009 at 11:31 am
Great post.
cavale… I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN! Maybe stuck to the back of my camera will do. ;)
April 8th, 2009 at 12:08 pm
“Your beautiful”
My beautiful what?
April 8th, 2009 at 8:24 pm
Great post… I have made a jump picture my self have look here..
http://www.flickr.com/photos/30023038@N02/3015715754/
Last Page.
April 8th, 2009 at 11:55 pm
The first shot (jumping) is a huge family. The shot looks AWESOME! The dad looks especially happy. In fact, everyone except the mother seems to REALLY be enjoying themselves.
I really like the one with the guys lying on the grass as well.
Great tips!
April 9th, 2009 at 12:20 am
Cavale, Canonmaiden– i’m with you guys. Its always the ISO from the night before that I lose the first 3-10 shots to.
Pramathesh, love it. Chas, love the focus line.
One of the ones I like to use that is a bit unorthodox is to request that the model give a great big genuine happy smile. When she does, I usually wrinkle up my face in fear, scream lightly, and request that she never do that again. I trigger the shot on the confused ‘what’ face, and the genuine laugh after I tell her I was just trying to get that confused expression.
Not exactly a one-liner, but I’ve gotten some great results with it.
April 9th, 2009 at 12:26 am
For all those who find the settings a problems, I read recently what you should do. Make it a habit every night (or after every shoot) to reset your camera to known settings that will work most of the time. IOW – put your ISO back to 100, exposure compensation to 0, etc so when you pick it up, you don’t need to remember to reset it.
April 9th, 2009 at 1:25 am
often after i get everybody posed, i will tell them to squish in a little closer. i have had good results saying something to the effect of “come on, closer… let’s -pretend- like we like each other…” (said in an obviously joking manner with a big smile on my face, of course). typically it gets them to move in closer and smile naturally for a few seconds. and i love the “everybody get into focus” line. that one made me laugh. :)
April 9th, 2009 at 3:05 am
I used the close-the-eye technique with some friends of mine. While everybody had their eyes closed, i took a shot and they were very surprised. When i asked them to close their eyes again, they were already smiling.
April 9th, 2009 at 9:45 am
Having the family give each other a big group hug before or during the shoot can reveal a number of expressions and help ease shyness and insecurities.
April 9th, 2009 at 11:49 am
Thanks for the great tutorial – I’ve had problems getting everyone to look AND smile AND have their eyes open also. Thanks for everyone else’s tips also – and I’m among the ones needing the tattoo on the forehead I think!
April 10th, 2009 at 1:36 am
Excellent!
I love the tips. Thanks.
April 10th, 2009 at 1:39 am
I get many email newsletters and have eliminated all but yours – it actually is the one with great value and I seem to learn something new with each edition. This article about family portraits is fantastic. Thank you for that.
April 10th, 2009 at 1:54 am
great tutorial, right before Easter, thanks!! :D
April 10th, 2009 at 2:10 am
This is going to be really obvious to everyne here, but I’ve seen this too many times. Choose a place or a backdrop where the group or family is NOT facing into the sunlight. My BIL recently had everyone posed for a family shot after a church event standing in front of beautiful flowering trees, but they were all squinting. NOT a good result. He had the background okay, but forgot about the light source. Small thing but easy to overlook.
April 10th, 2009 at 2:13 am
I often try to take some family portrait and the picts examples are more effective than many words. But we also need to reed some useful tips so.. thank you a lot!!! Sara
April 10th, 2009 at 2:25 am
I always enjoy these articles and learn so much. I have been asked to take pictures at our first ever family reunion. I am a novice and am nervous about doing a good job and capturing great memories. Any suggestions for LARGE groups? My husband has five brothers and his cousin’s family has eleven – and that’s only the beginning!! Thanks in advance – I could use all the help I can get!
April 10th, 2009 at 4:00 am
I’ve used most of these tips with great results.
“Lick your lips, or I’ll lick them for you” usually gets a good candid natural smile.
April 10th, 2009 at 4:36 am
one tip to loosen the mood–ask everyone to whistle to see who can go the longest without smiling or laughing.
April 10th, 2009 at 7:10 am
“a few clicks smaller than the lenses widest apeture….. so if my widest apeture is say 4.0 would you then shoot the photo in say a 4.5″
April 10th, 2009 at 7:11 am
sorry my last post was actually a question i left the ?
April 10th, 2009 at 7:24 am
@Katrina,
Depth of field issues are often too complex for any set rule. Much depends on the lens and subject distance etc. If you have a lens that opens up to 4, that should be a safe starting point. Take a few and see if some things appear sharp and in focus, while other things seem too soft. If you think it might be an issue 4.5 would be a great next test. Good luck!
April 10th, 2009 at 8:20 am
When taking a family pic, I always say “now act like you like each other!” Works every time.
April 10th, 2009 at 10:02 am
for katrina
From f4 close the opening to something like f8 or even f11. Most lenses give sharper results in that f-stop range simply because of lens geometry.
April 10th, 2009 at 1:10 pm
I loved the 2nd point on DONS, it happens so often …
great post, loved the other comments as well !!
April 10th, 2009 at 6:26 pm
hi… i really love these newsletters that i almost look forward to receiving them… i will be doing a family portrait shortly (my first one) n was just waiting for tips like these… really good tips also thanks to everyone who has put in their tips as well… certainly takes off some pressure for me…
continue the good work guys… appreciate it…
April 11th, 2009 at 3:00 am
Loved this article. No technical jargon that someone who isn’t advanced can’t understand. Just great practical, usable tips.
April 11th, 2009 at 4:33 am
Typically it is the guys who are the hardest to get to relax and pose for me. When they are with their family or significant other and look frozen, I tell them to “pretend you like this lovely lady beside you”… usually it gets some smiles I can grab. Or I “threaten” them. I tell them if they don’t “smile nice for the camera” their lovely lady will let them share Rover’s bed or, and only if I know them well enough for them to know that this overweight photographer is not serious… I tell them I will have to start stripping if they don’t relax…. I’ll start taking my shoe off or the like and it usually ends in a true laugh.
April 11th, 2009 at 6:37 am
Thanks for the tips, very useful for me as I’m developing my repertoire. I shot my friend’s informal wedding last weekend and both the bride and groom are the types of folks who close their eyes a LOT more than most– many of my shots wound up with one or the other having their eyes closed. Next time I’ll try the countdown approach to get them to open their eyes.
April 11th, 2009 at 11:28 am
When shooting portraits, i sometimes tell more self-concious subjects that “It’s too late for them to break the camera, your brother already did.” That tends to produce a smile.
April 11th, 2009 at 1:29 pm
I really enjoyed this information. I don’t think I could say, “Did you Fart”, LOL, my face would be so RED.
April 12th, 2009 at 4:14 am
A combination that I find that combines several technichques is to Auto-Bracket + and – .3ev and then you get people not knowing when shot is taken and also have 3 shots that can be combined in Photoshop very easily.
April 13th, 2009 at 11:00 am
My dad used to say “popsicles under your armpits!” to get us to smile for pictures– I have now started using that in my photography especially when there are kids and it gets GREAT smiles. We then come up with other things to put under your armpits- it keeps the joke and laughs going!
April 13th, 2009 at 9:58 pm
I heard recently as an easy rule of thumb, set your aperture with the number of people in a shot (2 = 2.8; 4 = 4.0; etc) it’s probably not absolute perfection but has saved me when I’m switching back and forth from 1-2 kids to the larger group. After, of course, I ruined a whole series of shots being in 2.8 for a family of 4 and mom and dad were blurred in all of them. Also helped me out for a family of 13.
April 13th, 2009 at 11:24 pm
“A closed eyes tip I picked up years ago that I’ve used with a group of 170 is to have everyone shut their eyes. Then count down from three and have everyone open at the one count. Everyone should be open without the need to blink a second later when you make the exposure.”
My sister uses the same tactic, Especially on me because my eyes are always closed in flash pictures.
April 14th, 2009 at 1:05 am
Instead of the old “cheese” have the subject say “yes” … it looks way more natural, and sometimes it gives a nice open mouth looking smile that looks like soft lauphter.
April 14th, 2009 at 1:21 pm
Just a comment about placing a subject/family/couple in front of a big flowery bush. I have found in my many years as a wedding photographer that a visually quiet, unassuming background sells better. I find the distraction of a louder background draws the eye away from the subject too much.
April 15th, 2009 at 8:21 am
Good points. I did my first family photo shoot last fall and after the whole thing was done realized I had forgot to change back my ISO setting from a previous indoor trial. I shot the whole thing at 1600 and was wondering why I was having to compensate with a small aperture setting. Duh, I felt so dumb afterwards.
April 15th, 2009 at 11:47 am
these tips are oh so great!!!! i reaaly think our family photos will be better this year…thanks!
April 18th, 2009 at 10:07 am
Great topic! Here’s a tip that works for me – instead of “cheese” have them say “Barney!” – you will get a great wide smile (and a few chuckles) and saves some embarrassment should any of your subjects happen to have a lisp. You also get to avoid what my daughter calls the creepy Barbie smile.
April 18th, 2009 at 10:21 am
A friend of mine gets natural smiles in group photos by saying “Now, everybody frown!”
April 24th, 2009 at 12:06 am
Thanks so much for the tips. I’m photographing a young family of 10 this weekend so I will be taking those all on board. It’s always great to learn of new ways of getting people to smile naturally plus different methods for getting natural shots rather than posed shots of kids. Makes my job easier!
April 30th, 2009 at 1:09 pm
With little kids that are getting the glazed over look after a couple minutes of shooting, I’ll say, “Hey who’s ticklish here? Let’s see who’s more ticklish”. It usually breaks up the pose, but you can get some good close up candids. It even works for adults sometimes.
May 2nd, 2009 at 11:58 am
thanx for the article, just thought I’d leave a note re a one liner I seem to use without actually planning to use a one liner :) I mainly shoot weddings and when taking the group shot after getting everyone into position I do find myself often saying, “right now then i want everyone to look as gorgeous as possible!” seems to relax everyone, puts a smile on their faces and voila – they do look as gorgeous as possible :) Guess it’d work for family groups too! Worth a try :)
May 6th, 2009 at 1:33 am
Tame the beast! Yes don’t let the mother take over, or anyone else for that matter. One thing that always bugs me is the control freak in the family that has to check for themselves that everyone else is smiling correctly just as I take the shot.
Usually a punch in the nose fixes it, then photoshop out the bruises.
Simon ;)
May 6th, 2009 at 7:04 pm
Excellent tips. Thanks for this post.
May 8th, 2009 at 7:01 pm
“don’t let mum run the show…”
hehehe that’s hilarious….
no running, no jumping, no dirt, no fun…hold on, I’m that mum ;)
May 11th, 2009 at 11:43 pm
I am pretty new to photography (have always loved it but only recently have taken it up seriously) and have had my first request for a family portfolio shoot. I work with a Canon 40D, 17-85mm lens but also have my Canon 2.8 100mm macro lens which I know is good for portraiture (have done some self portraits and portraits of my husband etc). I also use the wireless remote (Hahnel).
I don’t have a studio, I don’t have all the other photographic equipment like reflectors etc.
How on earth do I quote on something like this – husband and wife with 2 kids – they are worried that they haven’t taken many ‘family photos’ and time goes by etc … so I’m sure whatever I do will be fine, but as its my first request I’m nervous and scared that I’m going to stuff things up and also how do I quote?
Any ideas, suggestions, tips etc would be appreciated. Also aware that as a new photographer I need the experience and to also build my portfolio …
June 6th, 2009 at 11:34 pm
This is a great article to keep in the back of your mind as a good reference for shooting families!
I’d def’ recommend the having fun aspect of it. If your clients only want formals, offer to have them to some fun/crazy as well to loosen them up! And then stick to what they hired you for :)
-Tim
June 16th, 2009 at 7:22 am
Great tips…I’ve only been taking photos seriously for approx. 4 years. I’ve never really had any formal training, and I usually use one of the programmed settings on my Nikon D80. It all started with my sons playing football, soccer and baseball, so I specialize in Sports Photography. Well needless to say taking pics outside on a sunny day is so easy that a monkey to do it, but when the sun is not out, it’s cloudy and overcast or it’s a night game with cheesy lights everything gets alittle complicated. I guess the point I’m trying to make is f-stops and ISO’s are very important, when you have to manually set them. I’ve been asked to do weddings, family portraits, proms, baby showers, suprise birthday parties etc. but I’m intimidated because of f-stops, ISO, etc. The tips pointed out here are very informative, however some have stated that they inadvertantly shot in the wrong settings. Are there specific ISO’s for indoor, outdoor, overcast, cloudy, bright sun, field lights, moon light etc. How can you determine ISO so you won’t be dependant on the programed settings. I usually shoot ISO 1000-1600 to freeze the action when I do go M or AP and adjust the WB for Flourcent of incandecent light for indoor games but i really try to avoid them.
June 20th, 2009 at 12:25 pm
Fantastic article – I just happened to come across it this evening while prepping for a shoot tomorrow. Really great tips and tricks. I’m still a young photographer, and I’m still super nervous about paying clients, so it was nice to have the “3.) Don’t sound insecure” rule reiterated. Thanks for the valuable information.
June 29th, 2009 at 1:46 pm
I have successfully used an idea that sounds like it won’t work, but for me it did. When taking a picture of a lot of people, it is almost impossible to get one with no one blinking. Tell everyone to blink on the count of three and then take the picture on four. Tell them ahead of time what you are going to do so they understand the purpose of it all.
October 22nd, 2009 at 10:50 am
A one-liner for bridal party groups…. “Can the bride and groom have a kiss please (click). Now EVERYBODY have a kiss (laugh – click)”
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