It is what it is...

Maybe I'm just melancholy this morning... who knows.

It is what it is…

Sometimes things just come up that you don’t quite know how to handle. Sometimes all the experience in the world cannot prepare you for certain events.

How do you say goodbye to a loved one when you can’t visit their funeral?

How do you get someone to truly understand your point of view? And what if they don’t care?

How do you move on from the mistakes of the past? The kind of mistakes that keep you up in the middle of the night, nagging at you, prodding at your consciousness. Digging into the non-self.

How do you maintain your individuality while being in a group?

Life doesn’t give any answers. Books hold nothing of value. Others are just as lost as we are, anyone telling you otherwise are trying to sell you something.

It is what it is, I suppose.

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[Sterling]

If that's a sample of your blog, I think this is the one you're going to have to deal with most:

How do you get someone to truly understand your point of view? And what if they don’t care?

Originally Posted by Sterling

If that's a sample of your blog, I think this is the one you're going to have to deal with most:

Is that a dig at my blog? is that a dig at me?

Do you even know what I was talking about?

[Sterling]

No dig at your blog or you. I don't know a thing about either. I just don't find the musings in your post particular profound and I question why anyone would feel the need to quote themselves on another forum. I figured of anyone around here, you'd appreciate an honest response. But if you're feeling sad, I hope you feel better soon.

Originally Posted by Stupid

I don't have a problem dealing with those life issues.
I tried to explain it to you once but you came unglued and started swearing crap at me. I think it was along the lines of wishing someone should go straight to hell, remember?

So, yes. I don't have a hard time dealing with those issues. Probably because I don't harbor resentment or anger towards anyone. Even with people that don't share the same views I do.

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I have a hard time believing that you don't ever get angry or have an easy time with everything life throws at you.

[Gonzo13]

Curiously Max what was this post about? Were you seeking answers or were you just trying to share your view with others? Of all the things that I have learned in life one of the most useful things has been to figure out what the person is trying to achieve before you act.

[candidrachel]

I'm still learning to let go and not dwell on the past. One thing I have learnt at the Great University of Hard Knocks is that you can't control other people's actions but you CAN change your reactions to them.

I get on with my mother in law much better as a result!

My parents brought me up to treat others how I would like to be treated and I try to live by that.

On the suject of the blog. I got the impression its all about CONSCIENCE and being true to yourself regardless of what others think.


If you ever get time in your busy hectic life styles the books How to Stop Worrying and Start Living and How to win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie and well worth a read!

Max please don't take offence but I sometimes get the impression you are quite a hard person or are you like an armadillo - hard on the outside but soft in the middle?

Originally Posted by Stupid

Never said that. I said "I don't have a problem dealing with those life issues". Big difference. Sure I get angry and frustrated at times.

My world view is the complete antithesis of yours.
So of course you would find it HARD to believe.

FWIW "Life" as you call it, doesn't throw ANYTHING at me. But circumstances many times do not go in my direction (in fact A LOT OF TIMES). My purpose is to find rhyme, reason and resolution to those problems. And then move on.
Resentment and anger are all the byproduct of pride. The prideful person can't forgive or forget and therefore can't resolve life's problems.
Then this pride eats away at them until they blame everyone and everything around them for their problems. Then feeling of restitution and vengeance creep in and we wish ill towards others. In reality, they should look no further than their own nose.

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See, here's my question for you... what if there isn't a rhyme or reason or resolution to the problem? Hmm?

I deal and swim in the ether ever single day of mind boggling human conditions and I would challenge your rigidity.

The problem as I see it is that sometimes life isn't that easy as you want to make it. Sure it sounds lovely to want to put it in such simplistic terms, but life isn't that way.

I think you missed the point of the post, which I think was to show that I may not control stuff around me so taking the stance of "it is what it is" calms the mind.

Originally Posted by Gonzo13

Curiously Max what was this post about? Were you seeking answers or were you just trying to share your view with others? Of all the things that I have learned in life one of the most useful things has been to figure out what the person is trying to achieve before you act.

Oh hell, I have no clue... like I said, maybe I was just being mellow dramatic... The thought came to me of some stuff I've heard lately and trying to work it out in my head.

Originally Posted by candidrachel

#1. - On the suject of the blog. I got the impression its all about CONSCIENCE and being true to yourself regardless of what others think.

#2 - If you ever get time in your busy hectic life styles the books How to Stop Worrying and Start Living and How to win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie and well worth a read!

#3 - Max please don't take offence but I sometimes get the impression you are quite a hard person or are you like an armadillo - hard on the outside but soft in the middle?

#1 - It's interesting that that's the impression you got from that. Not in a bad way... just an interesting take on what I wrote.

#2 - LOL thanks, I have enough psych books in my office to fill a small library

#3 -

[jiminyClickit]

"Life doesn’t give any answers."

When the student is ready, the teacher will appear. You aren't ready to hear the answers. And that's fine: learning is an adventure, and everyone has their own schedule. Meanwhile, at least you're still asking questions. And find a little solace in the knowledge that Time heals everything eventually. If you're still a "Lord, give me patience and give it to me NOW!" sort of guy, you may find it takes you a little longer to feel better.

But you know all this.

Originally Posted by jiminyClickit

"Life doesn’t give any answers."

When the student is ready, the teacher will appear. You aren't ready to hear the answers. And that's fine: learning is an adventure, and everyone has their own schedule. Meanwhile, at least you're still asking questions. And find a little solace in the knowledge that Time heals everything eventually. If you're still a "Lord, give me patience and give it to me NOW!" sort of guy, you may find it takes you a little longer to feel better.

But you know all this.

LOL!

You are right about one thing... I didn't want to hear any answers, well at the time... I was just fine wallowing it whatever bologna mood I was in.

If there was a "lord", i doubt he'd want to give me much of anything

And yes, I do know all that