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[bhursey]

I don't have a gun but I think I would take my monopod to my Daughters laptop if she ever did this to her parents. Note some mild cussing in the letter.

[Jim Bryant]

Love this! When My daughter turned 18 she came home and announced she quit school. My wife put her in the car and dropped her off at Walmart and said, "Don't come home until you get a job!" Later we saw s posting on her facebook page saying that she'd rather live in a box and eat rats! Well guess what? Amy took her clothes over to her friend house and dumped them into the driveway and departed. A month later she called back crying that she had no place to live and was sorry about the posting. It was cold, rainy and she was wet and shivering at a nearby park. She wanted me to come and pick her up, told her no, but if she came home, told her mother she was sorry, she wouldn't be kicked out. She moved to the East Coast to stay with my wife's family, went to school, got her GED and a job. She, got her own apartment and is now an assistant manager/bartender for an upscale Bristo, making $150-300 a day in tips and attending college to become a LPN. I am so proud of her.

[mshockley]

That was THE BEST video I've seen in quite some time!!!! I am very lucky, I have a girl the same age as this guy, but she's a pretty good kid!

He is just so cool how he keeps it in check through this whole thing!

[mosgood]

I can understand how angry & frustrated this dad is, but jeeze what kind of a message is he sending to his daughter by shooting her laptop? They're just going to be angry at each other...no telling how long this war will endure between them. Nothing positive learned, I'm afraid. I would have just wiped out the memory, & made my kid personally give it away to someone who couldn't afford one of their own. After that, she'd get a major grounding until she got an attitude adjustment. If not, it's "get out & have a nice life."

[Bruce A]

I can certainly understand this guy's reaction. Good thing he just shot her laptop and not his daughter. Sure he was angry - who could blame him? Many kids today are on a slippery slope heading towards pure evil unless there is intervention. I'm sure glad my boy grew up into a decent human being. Kids have so many challenges like violent games and movies, peer pressures, the deteriorating world they live in and of course many are laden with non-parents. The future has never looked more bleak.

No, I can't blame this father one bit - not so sure about the gun - but, I feel his anger and frustration.

[Rentham]

After seeing the dad's theatrics, I have NO idea how that kid turned out to be a shit head. Oh wait...

[metallion58]

Originally Posted by Rentham

After seeing the dad's theatrics, I have NO idea how that kid turned out to be a shit head. Oh wait...

+1 on that!

The basic rules of parenting are:

1. Teach them as best as you can
2. Do as little harm as possible

That guy seems to have it in reverse.
I'm not saying his girl was right but it seems to me the apple ain't far away from the tree.

[UlpilotSC]

Awesome. Would have been better with a Taurus Judge.

[Peach]

You know, his daughter sounds a lot like my younger sister.

She moved out of my parents house in July because she was "tired of being mom's slave." You know what her chores were? Empty the dishwasher (she didn't even have to load it), and fold the laundry (didn't have to put it away). That's it. She had to help out when mom needed help, which isn't often, but she'd throw a fit whenever she was asked to step away from her computer. She told us one time, a few years ago, she likes just staying in her room because "that way no one bugs me and I don't have to help out with any house work. I don't feel I should have to help out - you're not paying me."

When she got a job a few years back, and wasn't planning on going to University, my parents said "Ok, if you want to still live at home and work, you have to pay us $100 for rent. We'll save that money for you and when you decide to go to university/college, you will have it back." She sat in the back of the car and BAWLED her eyes out because she had to pay $100 a month for rent. They bought groceries, her clothes, her computer, they paid the internet bill, the phone bill, they drove her around all the time, gave her money when she was broke, drove her to the mall, etc. But she had to pay $100 a month that they were going to save for her and she threw a fit. Bear in mind that in the first 2 months of that job she made close to $3500 and was always broke; all she had was a cell phone at the time, she spent the money on clothes, make up, going to Denny's 3 times a day, going to the movies every weekend, etc.

If there is a piece of paper beside her on the floor and you ask her to pick it up, she'll look at you and say "It's not mine."

Just 3 days ago, she was over at my parent's house complaining about her boyfriend. She said she had made chili but didn't have time to clean up the mess she made in doing so, so she asked her boyfriend to do it while she was at work and he didn't. Meanwhile, my mom said to her "While you stand there yapping, could you please unload the dishwasher for me because your dad is coming home early and I'm getting dinner ready." She threw a FIT, saying they weren't HER dishes and she shouldn't be "expected" to clean up "someone else's mess." When mom told dad this later (after telling my sister to just go home, b/c mom didn't want to deal with her anymore that day) my dad said "So, it's not ok for her boyfriend to do it to her, but she can do it to you?"

Frankly, I would have applauded my parents had they done something like this father did, because I -KNOW- how his daughter probably is, b/c my sister is still like it (at age 21). All my parents ever did was fight over what they should do about her because she has always been "daddy's girl." Whenever she was in trouble, all she'd have to do is start crying or say "mom did this" and dad was there to defend her. He'd wishy-washy punish her; take the computer away for 2 weeks, but within 3 hours she was allowed back on it, meanwhile I was the one who always got the harsh groundings, the spankings, and the worse punishments. Dad grounded me for 5 months one time, in my room every day after school, no eating with the family, had to ask permission to go to the bathroom, had no toys, no books, when I was 10 years old because I was coerced into stealing $1.25 from a kid in class. My sister told my mother one time that she hated her effing guts and wished she were effing dead, while throwing, and breaking, an expensive depression glass pitcher that my mom loved in a fit because mom asked her to help pick stuff up so she could wash the floors. Dad woke up (he was nightshift that night) and got mad at my mom for getting mad at my sister.

So yea, +1 for the dad.

[bigben6]

the concept is good, the execution is poor... dont waste the laptop, reclaim it for yourself... i do think he has to hold himself responsible for her actions. That being said, ths biggest offense is not the laptop destruction or the gun, its using public humiliation as a learning tool...

What is funny to me is how amused i was when i hit the reply button on this thread, and then once i started thinking through it how mortified I am now... that family is ****ed up...