I think I'm scaring people away

[thirdxacharm06]

So my hairdresser just had her baby (her first). I did her maternity shoot to help build my portfolio and we had so much fun. When I did the shoot I dropped the hit of photographing her baby (don't have any newborns in my portfolio yet) once she had it and she was interested. I told her that it's best to do the newborn session within the first week due to the baby's features changing so rapidly after birth. When I saw her FB post about having the baby I sent her a congrats and told her I couldn't wait to meet the baby. She's completely ignoring me and my post but have told other folks to come by whenever to meet the baby. I guess i need a thicker skin but I've got baby fever.

How can I go about bringing in clients without them thinking I'm a crazy person?

[JFSanders]

Give her some time. She is overwhelmed with the new Mom thing. And you never know the baby may have a bit of jaundice or blotchy skin and she is waiting for it to clear up.

Jim

[candleman]

errr... don't stalk them on facebook?

If she wants pictures she'll contact you... when she's ready.
Remember, she isn't your friend.. so how would you feel if someone was spaming you expecting money.

She's probably busy too, Having a baby is a big event both physically and emotionally so she's probably tired and trying to simply keep up with friends wanting to visit. You aren't her highest prioriy right now seeing as she's probably not sleeping much, sore, stressed etc. etc.

Newborns are good for the first 6 weeks anyway, so don't panic.

[Biomech]

Don't forget, facebook is a tool, it's not really something you should be running as/ your business /through. I rarely reply to peoples facebook comments, that or I don't see them.

[Ginger Pixie]

It's almost like you are circling her like a vulcher or something just waiting for your pay day.

When you have just had a baby, you want to spend that time with your baby and family. There are enough people waiting in line to meet baby and it is a tiring and stressful time - I'm guessing there are a million things she could be doing that don't involve facebook messaging you right now.

[thirdxacharm06]

Originally Posted by candleman

errr... don't stalk them on facebook?

If she wants pictures she'll contact you... when she's ready.
Remember, she isn't your friend.. so how would you feel if someone was spaming you expecting money.

She's probably busy too, Having a baby is a big event both physically and emotionally so she's probably tired and trying to simply keep up with friends wanting to visit. You aren't her highest prioriy right now seeing as she's probably not sleeping much, sore, stressed etc. etc.

Newborns are good for the first 6 weeks anyway, so don't panic.

She is my friend and I'm not asking her for money. When we talked about it at the maternity session I told her because I needed to build my portfolio I would in trade for their time give her 3 digital images as a thank you. I haven't said let me come take photos. I said I would love to come by to meet her as "ME" from my own personal page.

[candleman]

Originally Posted by thirdxacharm06

She is my friend and I'm not asking her for money. When we talked about it at the maternity session I told her because I needed to build my portfolio I would in trade for their time give her 3 digital images as a thank you. I haven't said let me come take photos. I said I would love to come by to meet her as "ME" from my own personal page.

So my hairdresser .....

So, if she's your friend and you didn't say you wanted to come do photos.... then this isn't a business issue with clients anyway.
This is just a friendship gone wrong..... right?

relax, Don't chase people too much.
I've found chasing people is stressful, time consuming and seldom results in quality clients. They don't like it either.
*results may vary*

[thirdxacharm06]

Originally Posted by candleman

So, if she's your friend and you didn't say you wanted to come do photos.... then this isn't a business issue with clients anyway.
This is just a friendship gone wrong..... right?

relax, Don't chase people too much.
I've found chasing people is stressful, time consuming and seldom results in quality clients. They don't like it either.
*results may vary*

Even though she's not an actual paying client I wanted to treat the shoot as such to be like practice runs for the future. I don't want to be too over excited about shoots and then in turn push people away. I don't know it's just a weird situation. I guess I need to just move on and hope for someone else to come along that would like newborn shots.

[FlyingKiwiGirl]

Originally Posted by thirdxacharm06

...... I guess I need to just move on and hope for someone else to come along that would like newborn shots.

You got it in one! Maybe she has just decided she doesn't want her newborn's photo out in the public arena and doesn't know how to tell you. Maybe her partner doesn't want it either.

Photos within one week? Now that was pressure that I'm sure the mother didn't need. Take the hint, she hasn't been back in touch with you so she obviously doesn't want her baby's photo taken.

[bhursey]

Originally Posted by FlyingKiwiGirl

Photos within one week? Now that was pressure that I'm sure the mother didn't need. Take the hint, she hasn't been back in touch with you so she obviously doesn't want her baby's photo taken.

LOL ya iv you have ever had kids you know that the first 6+ weeks are absolutely crazy the last thing on your mind is photos..