just thought i'd take a look at it, grabbed your original post and played around in photoshop.
post processing:
grayscale
adjust curves/levels for contrast
crop sides to take out white streak on left and chair reflection on right
burn out background wall on left
dodge face and veil
added new layer for painted in color on bow
added "high pass" layer for sharpness, masked out areas like hair
added gaussian blur layer, masked for "d.o.p." effect, leaving face in focus
that's pretty much it... alot of it just depends on what you want the photo to turn out like...
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